Tuesday, April 5, 2011

A Million Little Pieces

You know what's funny? God and challenges. For any Christian, the love of God and the appreciation felt towards Him is indescribable. However, at times, despite the knowledge of this perfect love, He challenges us. For as long as I can remember, people have described my trials with expressions like "when it rains it pours" or "if you didn't have bad luck, you'd have no luck at all", and I feel like those are pretty accurate descriptions. There are moments in my life where I am faced with periods of normalcy and relatively unremarkable circumstances; I have grown to know that when these are present I must cherish them, but also be aware that change could happen any second. I'm not constantly living my life waiting for the other shoe to drop, but I know myself enough to recognize that "good" doesn't last long. Here's the thing though, my "good" and God's "good" have a tendency to fork, and this is when I really get to experience my God's love.

When I am going in a direction where I am lost, or participating in an activity that unbeknownst to me isn't most beneficial, God allows me to climb a "peak" of false-good. Once I reach the summit, with a loving and stern hand He crumbles the mountain, breaking me into a million little pieces. Initially, I stand amongst a pile of indecipherable rubble, and wonder why everything seems to blow up in my face at once. Why, at the WORST times imaginable, does everything give way? Why must He continuously break me down, even when I feel I can go no lower? The answer is simple, because He loves me. He loves me enough to hurt me, He loves me enough to let me fail, He loves me enough to break a misguided sculpture into a million little pieces.

There's something incredible in all this, and that's the rebuilding process. He will NEVER forsake you, no matter how hard you try and make Him. When you feel like you're at your loneliest, a friend may answer their phone at 1 am to hold you while you cry, and with them comes the ability to put some of the broken pieces in a new place. You could be getting ice cream with family, and despite feeling shame or sadness, you express your struggles and they reposition more of your puzzle. A big sister can sense your distress, and speak words that your ears hear but your heart feels, and with that love comes adhesive for the fragments. A soldier can call from 8,000 miles away, and simply the sound of their voice makes sense of the chaos. You can watch a baby dance or relive childhood memories, and the laughter restores more of the damage. When you feel like things are the most confusing they've ever been, cherish the moments, because they are leading to something wonderful and revealing truths that would otherwise remain concealed. When we are incapable of pulling ourselves back together, our incredible perfect God gives us people, moments, and memories to reassemble who we are supposed to be until we have the strength to stand on our own.

At times, this can include taking people from us, allowing us to hurt or embarrass ourselves, and loving us enough to let us learn the hard way. The most marvelous thing of all is that He will never take without providing more, allow injury or shame without a stronger repair or pride for enduring, and most importantly will never make the hard way impossible to navigate. I remember hearing a quote regarding trials; God may not always take away your struggles, but He may in turn strengthen you to make you capable of bearing them. This strength is not magically bestowed, we must humble ourselves before Him and request it, which at times can be the hardest part.

Often our lives can feel confusing, fuzzy, and indecipherable, we may look around us and see nothing but shattered pieces. These pieces are not "broken". They are simply fragments of something that wasn't meant to be, and needed to be turned into fresh materials for what is. Recognize that something bigger is at work, more so than we can comprehend. We have a tendency to examine the pieces one-by-one, scrutinizing them as we go, and forget that they are now building blocks for something greater than we can imagine. While we may look out in times of hardship and see nothing but a million gray little pieces: Remember, we see only a close up of the fragments. Our God will not forsake us. He will never make our lives a blur without already knowing why He's done so, or the power of what a million pieces can create when assembled correctly:

"Don't be afraid of change, you may end up losing something good, but you will probably be gaining something better."

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Time to play catch up

So I've decided it's been entirely way too long since I've updated my beloved blog, and thus will do so in a short novel. Since my last post I've been beat-up by the salt river, traveled to TX and Europe and back, broke my wrist, and sent off a missionary. June, you have been insanely busy. For starters, the Salt River. I had never floated the river before, but had been warned by numerous people of the low lying trees and the high speed exit. If you know anything about me you know I have ZERO coordination and if anything random or bad can happen, it will. So, the floating itself was amazing (excluding Sean and Brooke getting endlessly sling-shotted into the roots of trees) but because of their misfortune I had an endless supply of laughter. When people get injured around me I get a nervous laugh, it's nothing personal it just happens. Anyways, the time comes to exit the river and I'm the first to jump ship (or should I say tube)...let me take a second to appreciate the irony that is the upcoming story. The second my body hits the water, I'm done for. The current sweeps me away and I proceed to get dragged down the river hitting every sharp rock imaginable, while my friends look on in shock and hilarity. This would have been a terrifying experience if not for two things, 1. my swimsuit wasn't around my waist and 2. the water was more than two feet deep. Seriously, when standing, the water hit maybe mid-calf on my 5'6.5" frame, so watching me (a former varsity water polo player) flail on my back like a discombobulated turtle was nothing short of side splitting. Eventually, Tyler and Brooke came to my rescue, and once safely out of harms way I assessed the damage. OUCH. Both legs were completely annihilated and I now have a lovely scar on my foot to remind of the traumatic Salt River experience. Actually though, it was a complete blast and absolutely beautiful and as soon as my horrendous cast comes off I'll be adventuring back.

Now onto my recent travels. I always love going back to Texas because it reminds me of who I am. The atmosphere of the South is entirely unique and a lot more humble. I generally find myself trading in my Tory Burch flats and designer jeans for daisy dukes and a perfectly distressed baseball cap every time I go home. Anyways, I was in TX just long enough to recharge my batteries and then I was off to Europe. First stop was Ely (which is right outside of Cambridge and about an hour and 1/2 away from London) to visit my "sister" Alicia. I always have a hysterical time with her and I'm so glad to call her one of my best friends. While we grew up together in the same house, our 10 year age gap really prevented us from getting to know each other during that time. Now, as adults, we get to swap stories and appreciate each other a lot more. She's made a wonderful life for herself, and has the most precious family so she's definitely someone I admire and trust for good advice. While biologically we're cousins, it would be wrong to call her anything short of a sister. We had a blast together. It was my first time visiting her at her home in England and getting to glimpse into her life overseas. So many great stories and laughs came from that trip and I can't wait to go back in March to see her. After Ely, I had a brief stay in London before heading off to Paris. Holy Cow. Paris about made me cry, it was so wonderful. At first, I was extremely overwhelmed by lack of sleep, taxi wait lines, and the language barrier but once I checked into my hotel I was in love. We stayed about 3 minutes from the Eiffel Tower in the sweetest hotel ever (I HIGHLY recommend it if you ever visit). On our first round in Paris, we had lunch at a precious cafe, went to the Eiffel Tower, and ended with the Arc de Triomphe. By far, the Eiffel Tower was my favorite. It literally gave me chills the second I saw it. I can't wait to come back in a few years with whoever my sweetie is and appreciate the romanticism of Paris with someone I love. How cliche am I? Anyways, the following day I went on to Turin to visit my best friend Becky. She is currently studying abroad with her other best friends Angi, Eugenia, Stephanie, and Megan. Prior to this trip we have all hung out on several occasions, but I would say it was really our friendship with Becky that connected us as friends. After my trip to visit them, I can honestly say I will never feel that way about those girls ever again. They all have such wonderful and unique personalities that it's truly a joy to be in their presence. I came to Europe going through some personal stuff, and was counting down the seconds to see Becky to unload everything. Slowly but surely another girl would show up and sit down and listen. By the end of the day every girl had embraced me with such love and honesty that I left Italy with 4 new best friends with their own perfectly fantastic qualities. I was heart-broken to leave this community of women, and can't wait until we're all together again. They are such examples to me to be myself always and to truly value myself as a woman and it's absolutely an honor to know them. The only downside to Italy was this: Excellent. Prior to going abroad I was jokingly telling everyone how every time I travel internationally I get some type of illness on the way back. Little did I know, my tradition would ring true and I'd come home with the worst souvenir ever. My first night in Italy we were walking through the streets and I tripped over some train tracks and fell. That's it. That's all it took for me to end up in excruciating pain for 6 days (the duration of time it took me to see a doctor, thus no support or pain medicine), 4 of which were consumed with lugging luggage through subway stations, up and down stairs, and onto a plane. Just my luck. Initially, I was a grump when they casted me because Arizona summer and a cast really don't mix and the cast meant an extra week in Texas. Normally, this would be OK, but since Sean was leaving for his mission on the 28th I wanted to get home ASAP to spend as much time as possible together. However, everything happens for a reason, my other sister Cristina and her daughter Allanah came to visit and we got to spend some rare quality time together. Since my goddaughter Madison was in town too, we had a FULL house. Mads and Allanah are both 4 years old, so getting to watch them together was SUCH a flash back for Cristina and me. We are extremely close, and have been our whole lives, but we bickered endlessly as children. Madison was exactly like me as a child while Allanah was Cristina's spitting image. It was wonderful, hilarious, and frustrating all at the same time. Needless to say, I loved it.
When I finally came back to Arizona, I had been gone for just under a month. It was a bittersweet homecoming because I knew I would have to start prepping to say goodbye to Sean. For months people have been asking me if I'm ready and I've been volunteering how difficult it was going to be for me. Heck, I cried for days when he left for a semester of college, how was I going to say goodbye for two years? Sending a missionary off is one of the most emotionally confusing events imaginable. As my Uncle Jordan so eloquently put it "from an eternal perspective we would all be ecstatic to see you go, but from a mortal perspective it's extremely difficult to say goodbye". I was SO excited for Sean to go spread the truth of the Church to an otherwise Christ-less nation, and being a product of his mission work myself, I was fully aware of the kind of missionary he was going to be. Let me tell you, he's nothing short of extraordinary. His love for the Gospel and for his fellow man plus his fantastically quirky personality make him a perfect vessel for Heavenly Father and His message. Knowing this, I was thrilled for the people of Japan to receive him, but sad for myself to sacrifice my best friend. When Sunday came I was shocked that it had finally arrived. I had no idea how I was going to feel and caked on as much waterproof mascara as I could and headed out for goodbye. After several tears at his farewell, our family testimony meeting, and a fantastic talk with Meagan, we went to his setting apart. After the closing prayer I felt relief. What? I wasn't expecting that emotion at all. Several hours after, and no tears later, I was floored at what was going on. I had been praying for days about this goodbye, but I wasn't expecting this level of comfort. After our final hug, and a goodbye that was perfectly us, I hopped into my car and did something that you couldn't have paid me to predict: I smiled. I turned on the mixed CD he gave me, and belted it out through laughter the entire way home, and haven't cried since. Something came over me in the car that reassured me that something bigger was a work and that there was a plan in action for me and for Sean. That brought me so much peace. Several girls have reached out to me who have recently shipped off missionaries, and it's incredible the community at work. I'm thankful for missionary work and for Sean sacrificing two years of his life for the Lord (as well as all the other missionaries at work) and it's truly a blessing. While I'll miss him and this is still new I'm excited and can't wait for these next 24 months to fly.
See you in two years Elder Burns I love you :)

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Beach hair, Bridal Bonanza, and Border hopping.

So, these past few days I've been in San Diego experiencing one of the best vacations I've ever had courtesy of the AMAZING Burns' Family. My Aunt Carol and Uncle Jordan could not have been more generous or showed me a better time. Also, thanks to the wonderful Meagan Jackman, we had so many fun activities perfectly balanced with delicious restaurants and down time. I have never been to San Diego before so this vacation was extra exciting. I never laugh harder than when I'm with Sean and his family, and this rang true the entire vacation. This was confirmed to me when we found this little gem in Sean's bed... Yes ladies and gentlemen those are, in fact, DIRTY WOMEN'S UNDERWEAR. Let me give you a little visual to how this happened. We were pulling out Sean's bed and I was at the top (by the back of the couch) while Sean was at the side. I pushed the foot of the bed up (to unfold it) and in the process see a navy blue cluster in the middle of the bed and IMMEDIATELY begin praying that it's a pair of socks. We all burst into uncontrollable laughter and proceed to move on with our evening. Shortly thereafter, almost all the kid's were in mine and Michaela's room when Carol comes bounding up the stairs laughing and tosses something onto our bed. What was it? PANTYHOSE. Apparently, my Uncle Jordan saw something peeking out of the bed frame and located another piece of ladies attire. It was priceless. The following day we went and saw sea lions and had a picnic before heading to Del Mar. The sea lions were HILARIOUS and I loved watching them hop around the beach on their tummies. After our afternoon of tanning I had the incredible opportunity to experience Pat & Oscars and their breadsticks. YUM. After we went home to digest for a little while we decided to head out to the Outlet's to scope out what damage could be done. The shopping was great, but I practiced self-restraint so that I could really burn up my card on Monday. However, thanks to Meagan and Cam, Sean got a special little treat that would provide an unimaginable amount of laughter for everyone on the trip. The following beach day he wore these under his trunks (only the kids knew about this) and upon arriving at our INCREDIBLE private beach, he quickly disrobed and pranced around in just them giving his parents the cutest and most shocked reactions ever. We loved it. Sunday, we woke up extra early and headed out for Sacrament meeting where we heard a very enthusiastic conversion story. We then met up with the rest of the family and headed out to Balboa park to check out the gorgeous Japanese friendship garden. After that, we headed over to the SAN DIEGO ZOO. I cannot say enough about how cool this place was. I took SO many pictures there. Sean coaxed me onto the Air tram where I nearly had a panic attack in line and when we first took off, but eventually got over it and saw so many fantastic things. I'm glad I have friends like him to push me to do things I normally wouldn't (in a positive way, of course). After the zoo we went and had the most amazing dinner EVER thank's to Meag's excellent restaurant locating skills. It's called Extraordinary Desserts, and my goodness does it live up to it's name. I had a Gruyere Grilled Cheese and La Bete Noire cake for dessert. OH MY YUM.


It was so unbelievable. Monday we went to the most fabulous private beach where it was literally just us and then headed over to the outlet malls. I did some MAJOR work at the Ralph Lauren store and found out you can get a frequent shopper membership card! AMAZING. I saved THIRTY PERCENT thanks to that little guy. On our last full day there we decided to break from the agenda and take a stroll to Scripps aquarium, and let me just say it was a BLAST.
We spent the rest of our time on the beach and just spending time together, it was truly an amazing vacation. The Burns' family are such special people who live such righteous lives. I constantly felt the presence of the Spirit and it was just a wonderful vacation.

Now to address the two other topics in my title. Now that I'm home it's crazy go time in planning Jason and Michaela's wedding. I'm so blessed and honored to be included in the planning process, but it's time to get to work! We have SO much done but SO much left to do so that will be extremely fun. As far as border hopping goes, I leave for Europe May 29! We're hoping to hit London and Cambridge in England, Turin, Italy, and either Paris, Scotland, or Ireland. I'M SO EXCITED! I love traveling abroad and have only been to London out of the aforementioned locations so I can't wait. So much to do, so little time, but as always...Life is good :).

Monday, May 10, 2010

I've jumped on the bandwagon!

Well, here I am. I've been thinking about a blog for a while and I seeing as I have two major finals tomorrow, what better time to start one now, right? There's so much to write about, I can't even begin to fathom where to start. I apologize in advance for the length of this. I look back at this past year and my jaw plummets to the floor. A few key points? Let's start with November 2008. Thinking back it feels like yesterday but in reality it's been a year and a half. Why here? This was when I found out my Dad was moving to Russia. Wow. My dad and I have an incredible relationship that I am so grateful for, so I had so many emotions when he asked my thoughts, my main one being excitement. December 2008, I decide to change my life and set out on a journey filled with laughs, squeals, tears, triumphs and losses (of the weight variety) and here I am now over 100lbs thinner than then. Wow. January and February were relatively uneventful, which if you know my family is a rarity. March 2009 Dad makes his way to Mother Russia. I am excited and sad. I find out we have a chauffeur named Igor who used to be a Circus performer and almost all sadness fades. Why? He is precious. He stands at about 5'11 and a stout 250, he drives with care (which in Moscow is nearly impossible), he is polite and puts up with my Dad's silly jokes and my outbursts of fear when we appear to be potentially annihilated by ANOTHER car trying to squeeze in the 3-lane-turned-8-lane road. Imagine that jolly fellow wrapped up in a leotard doing acrobatics and it's pretty stinking hard to be sad. April, uneventful. May 2009, I have officially completed my first year of college. WOW. I immediately depart for Moscow and return in time for the major weight loss alteration to occur. June 2009, Life permanently changed, this is good. July 2009, OUR MISSIONARY IS HOME!! Jason returned with honor and my heart beamed to have him back. July 2009 is where things really start taking off. Jason and Sean are the brothers the Lord didn't directly give me...probably because he knew our mothers could only handle us in doses. That, and He knew I had to marry one of them so, that relational bond could have proven to be challenging...then again I am from Texas...JOKING. However, I could spend an entire blog on these boys and my love for them and their beautiful family, but I'll spare you all. They invited me to singles ward and I gladly attended. At first I say it's "just to get my God in" since I wasn't going to any type of church (despite my 12 yrs of Catholic schooling)and take it as an opportunity to celebrate Christ and meet new people. Boy, was there something else in store for me. Little did I know these Sunday's in July would be the beginning to a new life, one that I had witnessed from a far but never previously accepted for myself. My relationship with the Church has been beautiful but rocky, this is another reason for this blog. I'll get to more on that later though since I feel this intro blog is more than long enough, but I'm excited to be here and I'll do my best to keep you posted.